If we really look at this verse with a desire to understand its meaning, we can find a simple truth 🙂
A baby is born with a sin nature. Although a newborn cannot willfully speak a lie, he can do so in actions because he is born with that sin nature. It is “natural” for a human being to sin. (Psalm 51:5) Just as our parents, since the fall of Adam and Eve, were born with that same sin nature, so will our children.
As a baby experiences Mommy picking him up each time he cries, a habit is formed. At the infancy stage, crying is the only form of communication that a baby has to say that something is wrong. However, give that baby two to three months and he will have that routine figured out. My mother told me that once a baby is about three months old, he becomes spoiled and it is best to pick him up only when he really needs something. She was so right! I followed her advice with my first baby. But with the second, I was more lax and gave in to the cries. What followed thereafter were sleepless nights! I should have listened to Mom 🙂
Babies are not stupid. Although they cannot communicate verbally, everyone knows their screams can be heard three floors down when they are hungry 🙂 As the daily routine becomes a part of a baby’s life, he knows that each time he cries, Mommy comes to check on him.
“I think I’ve figured this out! I’m lonely and want to cuddle so I will cry and that nice lady will come pick me up!”
Thus, today’s verse! My precious little bundle of joy just lied to me! Maybe not in word, but surely in action! 🙂 Sin starts early in a baby’s life, doesn’t it? So how is a young mother to handle this?
If Mommy has spoiled her baby, it can be fixed 🙂 By the time a baby is a couple of months old, a mother can tell when her baby is hungry or when it’s just a dirty diaper. When the baby has been fed, burped, changed and cuddled for a bit, Mommy should put the baby down. If baby cries after a bit (and it’s not time for a feeding), don’t pick the baby up. Check his diaper – if it’s clean, rub the baby’s back and leave him alone to cry. Yes, it’s definitely difficult to hear your baby’s cries. However, if you do not nip this in the bud now, you will pay later. It won’t take longer than three days and your baby will realize that he will not be picked up when it’s not necessary. In kind, he will realize that when he’s hungry (and in “need”) his needs will be met.
As your baby gets older and it’s time for him to sleep through the night, this same concept can be used. My youngest had a habit of eating at 2:00 a.m. even at six and seven months old. It was at this time that I remembered hearing a godly woman speak at church on this very verse. I knew I had not heeded my mother’s advice and I was reaping what I had sown (or not sown). With Psalm 58:3 and my mother’s advice ringing in my ears, I stopped spoiling my baby. The first night of 2:00 a.m. crying, I went in to his room, laid him back down and left the room. He cried for nearly a half hour. This poor Momma was beside herself! The second night’s performance was similar but this time, he only cried for about 15 minutes. However, the third night was even better. After going in and laying him back down, he cried for a couple of minutes and that was it. That was the end of our 2:00 a.m. meetings! 🙂
I knew that I would never disobey my mother’s counsel in this area again 🙂 Had I listened to her and remembered Psalm 58:3, I could have been spared this excruciating lesson! I don’t know why the Lord laid it on my heart to write about this today – maybe there is a new mother reading this that is going through the same thing. I pray it is a blessing to someone!